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Post by buzzonesbirdie on Sept 27, 2008 22:16:34 GMT -5
I have put off writing this for 2 days because I am in so much pain over this and did not want to acknowledge this. We lost our little thief Snowy on Thursday night. She had been out playing with her brothers and sisters on Wednesday for most of the day. I was not home much on Thursday so they did not get a play time till later at night. I noticed that Snowy did not come out to play and went to go find her in the cage. What i found was a severely dehydrated and lethargic little girl. Not knowing what was wrong we rushed her to a local animal ER (which i hate for many reasons but had no choice as i could not reach my vet). They took her back and gave her iv fluids and then told me that she needed to spend the night. I got a call 2 hours latter letting me know that she had passed. When i asked why i was told "we don't know" with and attitude of does it matter?? My vet performed an necropsy and said that he found some foam like material in her stomach and that it had caused a blockage. I am so mad at myself for so many reasons. I searched the living room and found a toy of my children's that I had missed when cleaning up for playtime and also for not knowing that something was wrong sooner. I have terrible "what if" syndrome with this passing. It does not help that we just lost our baby Tigger not long ago. All i want to do is cry and i want to make sure that all of you double and triple check your ferrets play area to make sure that there is nothing that can hurt them. I didn't and it cost me my Snowy.
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Post by Jaycee on Sept 27, 2008 22:22:47 GMT -5
Oh Buzz, I had no idea! I am so, so sorry for you! I know how you are feeling, I have been through that before. But, you can't beat yourself up over it. Things like this happen sometimes...and for reasons we weren't meant to know or understand. Maybe your Snowey was sent to guide others home. We are all here for you. For support, and a shoulder if needed.
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Post by Forum Administrator on Sept 27, 2008 22:36:49 GMT -5
Jas I am SO sorry! Having just lost Samson in July due to a blockage I can certainly feel your pain. I know after Sams passed I kept beating my self up, thinking that it was MY fault he got a blockage. The fact of the matter is that we are human, we need to do the best we can to keep our homes ferret proofed but things can and do happen. No matter how careful we are, ferrets still find things to get into. Please don't beat yourself up, Jas. Snowy wouldn't want that. If there is anything you need, love, you can always call. I'm PMing you my phone number. If you call and I dont answer, just leave a message and I'll call you back. You dont *have* to call, but please do if you need someone to talk to and it would make you feel better.
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Post by Heather on Sept 27, 2008 23:07:17 GMT -5
I'm so sorry I know that words mean absolutely nothing and for me to tell you not to beat yourself up even less. The loss of a furbaby to any cause is devastating. We cannot be everywhere, we can't be everything, we can only be human. We do the best we can but mistakes happen. I will light a candle for you, to heal, to forgive yourself. I will also light a candle for Snowy. Tonight there is another star shining brightly in the calm, fall skies. Another furbaby to guide others and to carry messages to those that have gone before. No furchild every truly leaves, there is alway the messages carried on the wind, the rustle of leaves and a flash out of the corner of your eye. May sweet memories take away the grief. Goodbye sweet Snowy. ciao
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Post by buzzonesbirdie on Sept 27, 2008 23:11:48 GMT -5
Thank you all for your kind words. I am sitting here with tears in my eyes again. I know that i should not be to hard on myself but it is easier said then done. Snowy was with her cage mate Fatty my first ferrets. I got them to keep my hubby's ferret Freedom some company and they are what started me in researching ferrets and finally here feeding raw and helping others do so. Snowy and Fatty are special to me in that way.
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Post by weloveourweasels on Sept 28, 2008 3:00:02 GMT -5
I am so sorry for your loss. I am at loss for words. Little Snowy
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Post by mustelidmusk on Sept 28, 2008 11:01:22 GMT -5
This is such sad news. There are accidents in life....we are all human. I don' know if you read the FML or not, but somebody else lot a very dear ferret due to an accident. Many of us have had accidents with our animals and children, and we all suffer guilt from it. . .That's called life. The one post that stuck out in my mind was the post by Bob Church. He pointed out that the ferret that grew his wings had a wonderful fully enriched life. The ferret *may* still be here if it had been locked up in a cage all the time. But, if you're going to enrich your ferret and give him/her a life that's worth having, there will be risk, and accidents are part of life. I know that Snowy is (I say is because they never go away in my mind and heart) one of the lucky ferrets with a wonderful home and a fantastic mom . I'm so sorry to her this, and my words cannot ease the pain today, but please know that we just cannot be perfect. Also let me know if you want a break from mentoring - I'll be happy to watch your newbies while you deal with the trauma. I know how life can get. -jennifer
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Post by meli on Sept 29, 2008 0:37:29 GMT -5
Awe I'm so sorry! Don't blame yourself! Allow yourself to heal.
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Post by timmysmom20 on Sept 29, 2008 21:39:07 GMT -5
I dont know you hun but i just want you to no that things happene all the time like this, i no its easier said then done but please dont beat yourself up over snowy , Shes at the rainbow bridge now i can see her a dooken up a storm with Samson another member that just lost her ferret not to long ago i think you no her but they are both togather and watching down over yous and haveing a blast telling each other the fun things they did while on earth and thay will be waiting for your moms and dads when its out time. sorry for this being long
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