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Post by AnimalFarm2006 on Jan 15, 2011 1:31:02 GMT -5
Hey all. Right now I'm still not up to posting anything abou monster in the rainbow bridge but I am trying to patch up a new routine, and try to go back to being normal. I feel like somethings missing big time. My two questions are-> How long do I have to worry about missing ruber peices vs ferrets? They went missing sometimes last sunday. I've checked poops, gave vaseline, quarintied those that I suspect and nothings out of order. Also..How do I help dingo? He was fine for a while but now just sleeps, acts lethergic, and shook when I help him tonight. I tried the whole bob church thing where you scruff and tuck his butt in the nook of your arm. Than you wipe his face with a damp cloth to represent his mother. I really want to make him feel better now that he has lost his best freind. But...I don't know what to do because I lost my best freind too. If you guys can give me some tips for myself, and helping dingo feel beter, I would really appreciate it. My normal routine use to be ignoring the pain aand pushing it away but I had to be there for monster. I had to build my plans around his medication. Arrange the ferret room so it's easy for him to move.. Sorry can't type anymore. I keep crying over my keyboard.
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Post by sherrylynne on Jan 15, 2011 1:44:08 GMT -5
I can't even begin to imagine the grief from losing one of these little angels, but I do know you have to be strong for Dingo. Odds of him following his friend are fairly high, given how closely they were bonded. Just give him tons of special attention, watch how much he's eating/drinking, etc. Hand feed him if you need to. He'll certainly do better with the extra attention from that. If he enjoys soupies, hand feed him some of that, to make sure he's getting nutrition into him. Try to lure him out to play. Involve him with the others whenever you can. Hopefully, he will seek out someone else for snuggle times, and so on. Reinforce this as you can. As for yourself {{{{{hugs}}}}} Try to involve yourself with the others as much as you can. Cry into their fur. Give them hugs. Giving the added attention to Dingo will help as well. Play with them. Let yourself laugh at their antics. Laughter always helps. And there is no need to feel any guilt over laughter with the others. After all- they are such creatures of the moment, they would in no way want us to grieve their passing, but would rather we laugh at their past antics, and to share that laughter with their ferrety friends
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Post by Heather on Jan 15, 2011 3:08:50 GMT -5
Get some rescue remedy and try and get him interested in life. Tons of attention, love and snuggles. It's much too easy for cagemates to follow their friends to the bridge. It's bad enough to loose one, to loose two is horrible ciao
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Post by mjohn143 on Jan 15, 2011 9:13:58 GMT -5
I'm really sorry . Badger went through a little depression after the loss of Beatrice and what helped her was just carrying her around the house as I did stuff. She likes to sleep in the hood of whatever jacket I was wearing... like a little hammock on my back. I gave her treats and extra pets, and bought a lot of new toys until I found one she liked. It took her awhile... It was just her and Beatrice for about a year, then when Beatrice died, she was left with two bad little boys. Getting another girl helped her too bc now they always snuggle together, but I noticed it just isn't the same as with Beatrice. It really broke my heart the other day actually, I switced SD cards in my phone (put the one from my old phone in my new phone) and there were so many pics of Beatrice and Badger snuggling. I had forgotten how close they were... I'd give anything to have her back healthy and happy. As for helping yourself feel better, idk bc everyone deals with it differently. I made Beatrice a little grave at the edge of the woods outside my window. It looks over the river, so it's nice. I just have it as a little work in progress memorial garden type of thing. Just adding plants and stuff to make it pretty. In my ceramics class we had to make a monument to something, so I made a ferret that looked (as closely as I could get it) to Beatrice. I was going to put it out next to her grave but on my way home I had to slam on my brakes bc some dumb dog ran out in front of me and just stopped and it flew forward and broke. So... that idea failed, but I guess what I am getting at is making little tributes, monuments, or remembrances for them I think helps you deal with it. I mean you know you gave them a great life filled with love, but it will never stop you from wanting them back. I'm sorry again for your loss, and your other fuzzies too. Just spend lots of time with them and maybe do some activities with them to get them interested in new sights and smells. *Hugs*
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Post by AnimalFarm2006 on Jan 15, 2011 15:16:58 GMT -5
Thank you for the thoughts. I took dingo and tulia out for a walk today and even danced with them to some good ole oldies. Dingo's old so figured oldies would suit his persona.
He's eating fine right now but hasn't really been sleeping with the other weasels. He's not interested in toys ether. When I let everyone out yesterday night, He walked off and curled into the blankets. Everyone else was going crazy wild. I did catch him sleeping with ripply but not sure if they are buddys.
I can't get any more weasels but I have enough that he can choose another snuggle mate. He's blind & Deaf so not sure how thats going to factor in.
Do you think i'm out of the red now thats its been a week since the peices went missing?
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Post by miamiferret2 on Jan 15, 2011 15:30:21 GMT -5
I'm so sorry. I had to put my 8 yr old ferret down in September. Still traumatized by it and I still cry. I miss him. Pay a lot of attention to his buddy. The rubber pieces, I've seen them pooped out a week later. Depends how big they are. if everyone is still eating and pooping then I would not worry too much.
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Post by Heather on Jan 15, 2011 15:52:03 GMT -5
I created a sling for one of my furbrats using an arm sling. It allowed me to wander around do work and snuggle a grieving furfriend. ciao
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Post by bluemoose on Jan 15, 2011 15:54:31 GMT -5
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Post by AnimalFarm2006 on Jan 15, 2011 17:20:10 GMT -5
oh my...I'm going to make one just so I have one. Dingo most likely wouldn't stay inside of it. Monster loved those sort of things
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